relationship trouble

  1. Should I breakup?

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    Should I breakup? Ending a relationship can be an agonizing decision. From my experience as a Relationship Therapist allow me to offer some critical points to consider: * You have different values regarding critical issues in life; For example- Religion,Ethics, Life Goals, Raisin…Read More

  2. Improve Your Relationship

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    Become a better partner, improve your Relationship 1. Grow personally–To improve your relationship Intentionally seek your own growth and development as an individual. 2. Speak respectfully Make sure your tone isn't out of bitterness or unrighteous anger. Anger does not justify…Read More

  3. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

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    Are you Respectful? Do you take turns, acknowledge the needs of your spouse. Can you wait and listen carefully as they speak?  Do you share your needs and feelings with respect. Do you manage your emotions or do they manage you? We must be able to accept and respond to emotion. …Read More

  4. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

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    Anger is one of the most often misunderstood, yet significant concepts in life. Best understood as a response providing energy to protect; to respond to a real or perceived wrong doing or injustice in life, anger motivates a person to action. Self-awareness— Identifying the cau…Read More

  5. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

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    The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. Actually, other people are not responsible for any of these things. The truth is that each of us is responsible for 5 things; Wha…Read More

  6. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

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    Is It Possible to NOT FIGHT? In our culture, people often say “All couples fight, everybody fights.” Do you think it is true? Is it possible that we are socialized to think that way? What is your definition of the word “fight?” The Free Dictionary online says the definiti…Read More

  7. Couples Fighting

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    Is It Possible to NOT FIGHT? Consider the topic of couples fighting; In our culture, people often say “All couples fight, everybody fights.” Do you think it is true?  I believe this is a limiting belief that robs people of happiness, because we accept the dysfunctional inste…Read More

  8. IMPROVE COMMUNICATION

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    Constructive feedback. Our personal filters, assumptions & judgments of what is being said distort the message. Our role is to understand what is being said. This may require reflecting the other's statements, asking questions. Reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. “W…Read More

  9. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

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    For healthy relationships we must become more and more aware of ourselves, how we relate in both our strengths and shortcomings. If we step back and try to observe our own interactions, we want to avoid over-engaging in DEFENSE MECHANISMS. Denial: claiming/believing that what is …Read More

  10. RELATIONSHIP TIPS, Defensiveness

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    For healthy relationships we must become more and more aware of ourselves, how we relate in both our strengths, shortcomings and defensiveness. When we are aware of our defensiveness, we can try to minimize it and engage in a healthy way. Every person has ways of defending himsel…Read More

  11. IMPROVE COMMUNICATION

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    Pay attention;  Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. Recognize that what is not said also speaks loudly. * Look at the speaker directly. * Do not think about yourself. * Put aside distracting thoughts. Don’t mentally prepare a rebuttal! * Avoi…Read More