Boundaries, engaged or serious relationship couples~
Questions for you to ask…
- Can each of us set boundaries with each other? (being clear about what we will/will not say or do)
- Do each of us respect/support the boundaries of the other, even when they differ from ours?
- Are either of us so concerned with pleasing others, or not having others be angry, that we get injured or run over?
- Do we each respect the limits of the other?
- Do we let the other’s “yes” be “yes” and their “no” be “no” or do we push for change to our view?
Remember, engaged or serious relationship couples; boundaries in relationships are important!
A boundary is always a line or a limit you place on yourself. If an ultimatum or requirement is being given to someone else, that is not a boundary. Each person defines his/her own boundaries. These are the lines/limits/borders that define us and differentiate us from the next person.
In healthy relationships, the boundaries of other people are respected. For engaged or serious relationship couples this is mandatory for constructive, nurturing relationships. Each individual has the right and responsibility to determine his/her boundaries. Controlling behavior disrespects the boundaries and individuality of other people. Manipulative behavior disrespects the boundaries and individuality of other people. Aggressive behavior disrespects the boundaries and individuality of other people.
Obviously, we want to stop any controlling, manipulative or aggressive behavior on our own part. If you are in relationship with someone who is aggressive or controlling or manipulative I ask you to call now for an appointment to learn if this can become a healthy relationship. If you are in a relationship with someone who is extremely aggressive, controlling or manipulative I encourage you to end the relationship and make an appointment to learn how you were attracted to someone with these destructive characteristics.
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