To Be Extraordinary in Relationship
Ordinary;
When your “button” is pushed, go off on the person.
Extraordinary;
When your “button” is pushed, state you are having an emotional response & ask the speaker to clarify the intention of what was said or done.
Ordinary;
If you are conflict-avoidant, isolate from the other person and repress your emotions.
Extraordinary;
Commit to honesty, and verbalize the need for time to process your thoughts & emotions before discussing, then bring it up asap.
Ordinary;
If you quickly experience your thoughts/feelings in a situation, aggressively pursue the other person to talk immediately & resolve the situation right away.
Extraordinary;
If you quickly experience your thoughts/feelings, remain composed and process for awhile. Then respectfully approach the other person and share what is on your heart.
Ordinary;
If you are afraid to bring something up, sweep it under the rug and pretend you are fine.
Extraordinary;
Take responsibility for thoughts/feelings by respectfully sharing them with the other person.
Ordinary;
If the speaker is slow to explain, and to find the right words-interrupt and speak for her/him.
Extraordinary;
As you listen, refuse to think ahead about your rebuttal. Put yourself in the other person’s “shoes” and practice empathy, whether or not you agree.
