- Are you Respectful?
Do you take turns, acknowledge the needs of your spouse. Can you wait and listen carefully as they speak? Do you share your needs and feelings with respect.
- Do you manage your emotions or do they manage you?
We must be able to accept and respond to emotion. Feeling and Dealing is a critical lesson parents teach children.
- Do you know how to fill your tank?
Do you schedule time for self care? How do you manage your stress level? How do you manage the stress in your relationships?
- Are you able to be both Independent and Dependant?
Are you comfortable with both connection and separateness?
- Are you a good giver?
Good givers are aware of the feelings of others, and extend themselves to listen and comfort.