Anger is a Reality

It is one of countless human emotions; it is a spontaneous and natural experience. Anger can be defined as emotional excitement induced by intense displeasure. Anger prepares us emotionally and physically to take action. Individuals who have been hurt by angry people, may believe anger itself is bad. Individuals who have experiences with those who maintain self-control and are healthy in their anger may believe that anger is good. It is up to each of us whether we use that energy in constructive ways or to do damage to others and ourselves.

Anger is a Common Emotion

Some level of anger drives frustration, being annoyed or irritated. When we are grumpy or offended, we may be experiencing some form of anger. Anger may be observed in every age-group, different cultures and any geographic location. Our anger may be immediate, or a slow build may occur. It is sometimes a reaction to stress and pressure. Our physical condition can make an individual vulnerable to increases in anger such as being fatigued or intoxicated.

There is Power in Anger

Healthy anger can be a great motivator to right wrongs and change things for the good. Anger that is channeled can provide energy to do important things such as the grief driving mothers who are active in MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving). If an individual is hurt or mistreated, anger often occurs. Our human nature often wants revenge. When we allow anger to be in control, it can distort our point of view and limit our ability to be constructive while angry. Anger can protect, create and do good things. Or anger controlling individuals can cause ruined relationships, devastation, destruction or even death.

Power for Harm

Feeling angry is uncomfortable, and can be dangerous if an individual chooses emotional, verbal, physical abuse or violence to act out the anger. It is unhealthy to suppress, repress ignore or deny anger. Over-reactions, escalated behavior and explosions may result. Melt-downs injure those present, destroy trust and relationships.

Power for Good

There are enormous benefits to learning how to express anger in constructive ways and manage this emotion. Anger is always a secondary emotion following hurt, frustration or oftentimes fear. It can be a warning sign that something is wrong, injustice is occurring and that protecting and corrective actions are needed. Anger provides energy we are responsible to channel. THIS is what determines if anger is good or if it is bad, the choices we make.

An individual may have no control over the cause of anger, but he or she has ALL control over the expression of the anger.

  • Develop an internal thermostat to measure your emotional condition, note small changes
  • Directly deal with anger when it is mild, on a daily basis
  • Take responsibility for the emotion, do not blame others
  • Get help if you do not know how to maintain composure while experiencing intense emotion
  • Set a goal of learning to manage your emotions, do not let them control you

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else;
you are the one who gets burned.

Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body. “In your anger do not sin”

Ephesians 4:25-26