Evaluate the man; What is the difference between;

A man who flatters you, a man who compliments you.

A man who spends money on you, and a man who invests in you.

A man who lusts after you, and a man who loves you.

A man who believes he is a gift to women, and a man who believes you are a gift to him?

This is worthy of a good conversation and consideration.


Evaluate the man
Evaluate the man

Per Bukisa, Dec. 3rd, 2009;


“Is a good man always taken?  Not if you look closely and stick to your guns in getting what you want.  Yes, it takes time and patience but you need to have a list critical in determining if a man is good enough for you.  There are various characteristics to look for in finding a man worthy of your affections.  One of the main reasons it’s so hard to find a good man, is women settle too easily for Mr. Right.  There are 10 major signs that indicate if a man is worth the trouble in being in it for the long haul. Evaluate the man!

1.)     A good man treats his mother well but is not a “momma’s boy”.  There’s a fine line when it comes to a man’s relationship with his mother.   Some men still have the need for mom’s approval on everything, no matter what age they are.  This in turn can be fostered by his mother, of course.  This will drive you insane!  Part of finding Mr. Right is not being in competition with his mother.  It’s about how he treats her.  Does he respect her?  Does he remember her birthday and Mother’s Day?  Does he like to visit her and do things for her if she can’t?  This speaks volumes about his character and how he will treat you in the relationship.

2.)    A good man stands his ground and is not easily influenced by others thoughts or opinions.  This is a very important trait in a good man because it shows strength and confidence in his decisions.  There’s nothing worse than a man who is unpredictable, indecisive, and caring too much about what other people think.  It’s unhealthy in a relationship.

3.)    He is open-minded and respects other points of view.  An understanding man listens to others and doesn’t overtly criticize them just because he doesn’t agree with them.

4.)    Not having to ask him to do everything!  A good man is actually observant enough to see when something needs to be done and isn’t “nagged” to do it.  Helpful gestures such as taking out the garbage, putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher, or cleaning the windows, go a long ways for women.  These may seem like little things but those are the ones that encompass our lives every single day.  When men take the incentive to help out, it eases your stress and it proves he really cares about your relationship.

5.)    Consistent communication.  He’s the kind of man who isn’t vague or secretive when he’s asked about something.  Instead of hiding details, he volunteers them without you even digging for information.

6.)    Family is first.  A good man puts family first and everything else second.  He values their well-being and wants to always help in any way he can.

7.)    A good man walks the walk.  That’s right.  He isn’t all about just talking and telling you what you want to hear.  This is considered pacifying you when words are all he offers.  A relationship can’t work happily when a man keeps saying he’s going to do something and doesn’t. There must be follow through.

8.)    He has good friends.  You see he’s not only a good man, but he has friends that are good men as well.  This is an added bonus not only because you will inevitably be around them from time to time, but it reveals the type of people he really likes and how well he gets along with others long-term.

9.)    A good man knows when to let things go and doesn’t burn bridges.  This is a major indicator of how he handles situations when they don’t go his way with other people.  Vengeance isn’t worth it to him and as a result, he takes the high road.   It’s a true sign of class.

10.)  The best one of all – a good man accepts you for who you are.  He’s smitten with you, tells you how beautiful you are without makeup, desires you no matter what, and respects you in every way.  He makes you feel good and doesn’t belittle you in the relationship.  If you feel comfortable and happy when you’re are around him he’s a  good man and you hit the goldmine!”