In relationships, Assertive Communication is usually the most appropriate, healthy type of communication. Give honest consideration to your style. Our communication style is something we are in control of. The shy or introverted person can develop the ability to express more. The extroverted verbal person can learn to listen, slow down and to be attentive.  // Do you-

Women, aggression, femininity

  1. A. Talk to others with respect, but not requiring others to address you with respect?
    B. Talk with respect for the other person and respect for yourself?
    C. Talk to others respecting yourself only?
  2. A. Allow patterns of others taking advantage of you?
    B. Establish patterns of equality?
    C. Establish a pattern of others fearing and avoiding you?
  3. A. Do you make others guess how you feel?
    B. Let others know what you think and feel, and ask he/she what is thought or felt?
    C. Make sure others know what you think?
  4. A. Do you stockpile anger?
    B. Do you deal with anger in a timely manner?
    C. Do you act out when you are angry?
  5. A. Do you lack confidence?
    B. Are you self-confident?
    C. Are you cocky or arrogant?
  6. A. Do you just hope?
    B. Do you request what you want?
    C. Do you demand what you want?

A= Passive

Assertive communication is the healthiest option for interpersonal communication. This is being honest, speaking with equal respect for the other person and yourself.

Passivity is a problem, the other person has to guess what you think and feel. That often causes him/her to feel frustrated and conclude that you do not care. Passive people tend to stockpile feelings which is unhealthy because it can only go on for so long…

Aggressive communication is a problem because a monologue usually take place. Often the aggressive person has control or power issues, and does not show equal respect to the other person. That is not communication, it is a one way street.