Self Absorbed People; Red Flags that a Narcissist May be Exploiting You:
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* He/she makes you emotionally dependent on them
* Narcissist uses emotional blackmail
* Lies
* Expects favors from you but does not return them
* Exaggerates for their own gain
* Makes misleading Statements
* Distorts
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Self-absorbed people are likely to have shallow emotions, except for anger and fear. Their emotions do not run deep, and they do not empathize. Empathy is the ability to sense and feel what the other person is experiencing. It’s not sympathy or simply understanding. It is being able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and feel what they would feel in a specific situation. The ability to open yourself up and allow yourself to feel the discomfort and/or intense emotions experienced by another person. Strong boundaries need to be in place at the same time so you are not overwhelmed. You have to be able to feel and also be able to pull yourself back from the feelings. Because they do not experience an array of emotion, they cannot really understand what others are feeling. The self-absorbed usually have a well-developed entitlement attitude, which is challenging to deal with. He or she generally carries the assumption that they are more important than others, more deserving, and therefore should receive; more attention, special consideration, choice services, special consideration. He or she usually thinks they should not have to abide by the rules, regulations, or laws. They are rarely considerate of others.
When dealing with narcissists, make your goals positive and constructive. Then you will find;
- you are less hurt by their comments
- you do not feel guilty about not fully meeting their needs or expectations
- you are able to have a meaningful and satisfying long-term relationship with others
- you increase both your boundaries and your understanding and tolerance of the self-absorbed
- you do not demand that they become different
- you can be more self-accepting
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