Like all things, marriage takes effort for it to be successful, and premarital counseling can be a helpful tool. People tend to spend more time preparing for their wedding than they do for marriage. Don’t spend time planning the wedding without developing a plan for marriage! Premarital marriage counseling is an opportunity to explore the dynamics of your relationship and set yourselves up for a satisfying future together.
Why it’s done
Couples come together from different families of origin, having learned and having been imprinted, for better or worse, by these early experiences of connection. Partners have different personalities and temperaments, differing values and needs, and a range of experiences from past relationships. This is what makes couples therapy so important.
Co-creating a life together without a training manual or toolkit for how to manage the sometimes treacherous waters of our differences provides the need for quality couples therapy before the wedding. Important topics that are often discussed are:
- Beliefs about marriage
- Personality types
- Managing strong emotions
- Beliefs about divorce
- Sexual intimacy
- Career ambitions
What to expect
Premarital counseling can help identify your strengths as a couple, your weaknesses, and potential areas of conflict. Together, with your counselor, you can discuss areas of disappointment or disagreement and work toward overcoming challenges and setting common goals.
Your counselor may also ask questions that reveal your unique visions for marriage and clarify expectations. Premarital counseling is an investment toward the future success of your relationship.