1. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

    The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. Actually, other people are not responsible for any of these things. The truth is that each of us is responsible for 5 things; Wha…Read More

  2. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

    Is It Possible to NOT FIGHT? In our culture, people often say “All couples fight, everybody fights.” Do you think it is true? Is it possible that we are socialized to think that way? What is your definition of the word “fight?” The Free Dictionary online says the definiti…Read More

  3. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

    IS ANGER GOOD OR BAD Anger is a Reality It is one of countless human emotions; it is a spontaneous and natural experience. Anger can be defined as emotional excitement induced by intense displeasure. Anger prepares us emotionally and physically to take action. Individuals who hav…Read More

  4. IMPROVE COMMUNICATION

    Constructive feedback. Our personal filters, assumptions & judgments of what is being said distort the message. Our role is to understand what is being said. This may require reflecting the other's statements, asking questions. Reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. “W…Read More

  5. RELATIONSHIP TIPS

    For healthy relationships we must become more and more aware of ourselves, how we relate in both our strengths and shortcomings. If we step back and try to observe our own interactions, we want to avoid over-engaging in DEFENSE MECHANISMS. Denial: claiming/believing that what is …Read More

  6. IMPROVE COMMUNICATION

    Pay attention;  Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. Recognize that what is not said also speaks loudly. * Look at the speaker directly. * Do not think about yourself. * Put aside distracting thoughts. Don’t mentally prepare a rebuttal! * Avoi…Read More

  7. Friendship, a Gift

    Friendship, a Gift; Friendship is one of the greatest gifts we can receive. It is a bond beyond shared goals, common histories, or mutual interests. It is a bond stronger than shared experience or shared fate. It is not an automatic result of family relation or even marital commi…Read More

  8. Winning solution, Couples

    1. Work for a winning solution, happy couples are the goal. Shame-based couples often look at all issues in terms of right and wrong, and to see all conflicts as ending with a winner and a loser. That approach works for boxing matches, not couples. Search for solutions that make …Read More

  9. Marriage and Isolation

    Feeling Isolated? Marriage and Isolation is a danger that may threaten every marriage at some point. A husband and wife slowly drift apart in ways they don't even recognize at first. Signs of isolation include the following:     * A feeling that your spouse isn't hearing you a…Read More

  10. RELATIONSHIP TIPS: Intimacy

    Relationship Intimacy We are created for relationship. All of us balance two conflicting drives-the desire for attachment, and the desire to avoid pain. We need to attach, bond and connect to be whole and content. But in relationships, problems occur- some of which are painful. W…Read More

  11. Increasing Intimacy

    Relationship Intimacy Increasing intimacy; We are created for relationship. All of us balance two conflicting drives-the desire for attachment, and the desire to avoid pain. We need to attach, bond and connect to be whole and content. But in relationships, problems occur- some of…Read More

  12. Improve Relationships; Comfort

    Improve Relationships; Seek Awareness- Value comfort; Ask questions & discover feelings, underlying needs, and “buttons.”Engage -Bring this new awareness into relationship. Explore-Listen & clarify, ask further questions. Respond with understanding, validate feelings,…Read More