1. Engaged or Serious Relationship Couples

    Boundaries, engaged or serious relationship couples~ Questions for you to ask... Can each of us set boundaries with each other? (being clear about what we will/will not say or do) Do each of us respect/support the boundaries of the other, even when they differ from ours? Are eith…Read More

  2. Serious Relationships

    Serious Relationships! COMMUNICATION is critical for premarital counseling, engaged couples & those in serious relationships Do we each make it safe for the other to share thoughts & feelings? Do we each listen without interrupting? Which of us is aware of feelings quickl…Read More

  3. Assert yourself respectfully, and you will not stockpile Anger!

    ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION & ANGER Anger is a natural emotion, but often times, people don't express anger and allow it to be stockpiled. Anger has a way of expressing itself on its own. Letting anger express itself like this is unhealthy and can have negative consequences. This…Read More


    Pre-marriage counseling doesn’t need to be a long process, especially if you feel you’re starting out with a very solid foundation and only need some clarifications and goal-setting. Some couples have done this relational work before marriage, others flourish with the guidanc…Read More


    Anger is one of the most often misunderstood, yet significant concepts in life. Best understood as a response providing energy to protect; to respond to a real or perceived wrong doing or injustice in life, anger motivates a person to action. Self-awareness— Identifying the cau…Read More


    The most difficult stressor for most of us is other people. We often blame other people for our feelings, thoughts and choices we feel forced to make. Actually, other people are not responsible for any of these things. The truth is that each of us is responsible for 5 things; Wha…Read More


    Is It Possible to NOT FIGHT? In our culture, people often say “All couples fight, everybody fights.” Do you think it is true? Is it possible that we are socialized to think that way? What is your definition of the word “fight?” The Free Dictionary online says the definiti…Read More


    IS ANGER GOOD OR BAD Anger is a Reality It is one of countless human emotions; it is a spontaneous and natural experience. Anger can be defined as emotional excitement induced by intense displeasure. Anger prepares us emotionally and physically to take action. Individuals who hav…Read More


    Constructive feedback. Our personal filters, assumptions & judgments of what is being said distort the message. Our role is to understand what is being said. This may require reflecting the other's statements, asking questions. Reflect what has been said by paraphrasing. “W…Read More


    For healthy relationships we must become more and more aware of ourselves, how we relate in both our strengths and shortcomings. If we step back and try to observe our own interactions, we want to avoid over-engaging in DEFENSE MECHANISMS. Denial: claiming/believing that what is …Read More


    Pay attention;  Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. Recognize that what is not said also speaks loudly. * Look at the speaker directly. * Do not think about yourself. * Put aside distracting thoughts. Don’t mentally prepare a rebuttal! * Avoi…Read More

  12. Winning solution, Couples

    1. Work for a winning solution, happy couples are the goal. Shame-based couples often look at all issues in terms of right and wrong, and to see all conflicts as ending with a winner and a loser. That approach works for boxing matches, not couples. Search for solutions that make …Read More