Mindsight, and Mindfulness
Mindfulness, developing mindsight; Daniel Siegel has written many books explaining the connection between attachment and nueroscience. This blog represents a few of his concepts from his recent publication Mindsight; //www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=mindsight+daniel+siegel
Notice the benefits of Mindfulness; //www.huffingtonpost.com/elisha-goldstein-phd/mindfulness_b_1738404.html?goback=.gde_112401_member_144002638
Mindfulness, developing mindsight; How to negotiate a difficult situation using Mindsight. When we escalate, become very upset or “meltdown.”We may be told we need anger management.
There are 9 important functions of our prefrontal cortex in the brain that are necessary for emotional well-being; 1) bodily regulation 2) attuned communication 3) emotional balance 4) response flexibility 5) fear modulation6) empathy 7) insight 8) moral awareness, and 9) intuition.
- Body regulation; coordination of the part of the nervous system that controls bodily functions such as heart rate, respiration, and digestion. This “autonomic”nervous system balances both the acceleration and the slowing down of these systems. During escalation, these systems speed up as though we are facing a physical threat.
- Emotional balance; When we are in emotional balance, we feel alive and at ease. Our feelings are aroused enough for life to have meaning and vitality, but not so aroused that we feel overwhelmed or out of control Lacking balance, we move toward either excessive arousal, a state of chaos, or too little arousal, a state of rigidity or depression. Either of the extremes drain us of vitality.In the face of life’s challenges anyone can be temporarily “thrown off” and feel out of balance, but the prefrontal cortex of the brain and our own initiative bring us back to equilibrium.
- Response flexibility; the ability to put a temporal space between input (what is going on) and action (your words or actions). This is the ability to pause before responding, taking time to regain balance and become fully aware of what is happening. We restrain our impulses long enough to consider various options for response. When a state of chaotic agitation rises, we become inflexible. This is when we pause to re-integrate, regulate ourselves, before responding.
- Fear modulation; After experiencing a frightening event, we may come to feel fear in the face of a similar situations. Studies have demonstrated that we can consciously harness this connection to overcome the fear reaction and calm our agitation. We must learn what these injuries or “buttons” are, so we are self-aware when they are triggered.
- Empathy;is the capacity to create templates or images of the thoughts and feelings being expressed by another. This enables us to sense the internal mental stance of another person. This is the perceptual capacity to “see’ from another’spoint of view: We sense the other’s intentions and imagine what an event means in his or her mind. In order to be empathic, we must distance ourself from our own reaction or opinion.
- Insight;Allows us the be introspective and identify the thoughts, beliefs and emotions in our own mind. We connect the past to the present and the anticipated future.If we lose insight to our own mind, we are unable to recognize our button is being pushed or that a pre-existing injury is activated. Without empathy we do not have perception regarding what the other person is experiencing. Without insight we are not aware of what is driving our behavior.
- Moral awareness; this is how we think and enact behaviors for the social good. Moral reasoning requires the ability to sense the emotional meaning of present challenges and to override immediate impulses in order to create moral action in response to challenges.
- Intuition;a “heartfelt” sense or a “gut feeling” about the right choice to make. Such intuitions helps us to make wise decisions, not just logical ones. When we escalate, or are extremely upset we have no access to our intuition. Decisions should never be made when we are out of balance.
TO REGAIN CONTROL
We need to reflect. Mindsight, Mindfulness– is the reflection that emerges as our communication with ourselves and others helps us reflect on who we really are and what is going on inside us. Mindfulness, developing mindsight;
Components of Reflection;
* Openness; we strive to be receptive to whatever comes to our awareness without clinging to preconceived ideas about how things “should”be. We let go of expectations and receive things as they are, rather than trying to make them how we want them to be. Openness enables us to sense things clearly. It gives us the power to recognize restrictive judgments and release our minds from their grip.
Learn more about Mindfulness; //blogs.psychcentral.com/mindfulness/2012/07/mindfulness-is-not-a-cure-its-better/#more-2952