There are many important principles to use in Good Parenting. In this article I am focusing on principles related to Attachment Styles. In the book Parenting Inside Out, Dr. Dan Siegel teaches us a great deal about becoming better parents, developing healthy attachment and teaching this to our children and teens. Do you know your attachment style? The Secure Attachment Style is our goal.
Read and discuss the following guidelines taken from this book. I think they will go a long way to your good parenting;
Comfort your child
Apologize if your behavior is inappropriate
Practice good self-care
Become attuned to your child so he/she attaches well is good parenting;
Encourage age-appropriate independence in your child
Show pride in each child’s accomplishments
Build your child’s self-esteem by believing in him/her
Respond to your child’s changing needs
Calm your children when upset, hurt, disappointed
Discipline with logical and natural consequences
Expect others to show respect to your child. Never threaten abandonment, “come now or I am leaving without you.”
Believe in your child’s gifts and abilities
Trust your children
Practice unconditional love-your words and actions
Provide both stated and unstated messages of “I value you”
Provide both stated and unstated messages of “You can think”
Provide both stated and unstated messages of “You have control”
Provide choices so that your child can develop competency making decisions
Consider each of these points to cultivate Good Parenting; When poor choices are made, it is a learning opportunity. Give the opportunity to your child to make a better choice sooner than later! Develop insight about your own upbringing in order to become the best parent you can; //revelationcounseling.com/book-reviews/parenting-from-the-inside-out/
Parenting is an honor and enormous responsibility, I want to encourage you to learn/grow/deepen your abilities and enjoy good parenting.
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