Anger Management; Anger is one of the most often misunderstood, yet significant emotions in life. Best understood as a response providing energy to protect; to respond to a real or perceived wrong doing or injustice in life, anger motivates a person to action. Some people believe that anger is bad, or even sinful. Anger is a natural emotion experienced by all people. What a person chooses to say and do when angry makes all of the difference. Anger is a natural response to pain; if you sharply stub your toe you will instantly become angry.
These are some steps to help with managing anger;
- Self-awareness— Identifying the causes of anger in your life. Sometimes this is difficult, but we must humbly examine this with honesty, this will help you with anger management.
- Compose yourself — Learn the value of “calming” to allow the anger to subside. Learn to take a step back, try to observe yourself and stabilize before you proceed. If this is not possible, call me for an appointment and I will help you develop these skills. “Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.” (Proverbs 14:29)
Control it — Control your response rather than reacting emotionally. This is important for anger management. There is an important difference between responding and reacting. This is the key.
- Settle it — Commit to not only “doing” the right things, but also “being” the right person. Focus on the goal, what is important to you rather than the source of anger. Take responsibility for your anger by taking action with composure.
If you find yourself responding emotionally to what someone said, say so, and ask for more information: “I may not be understanding you correctly, and I find myself taking what you said personally. What I thought you just said is…. is that what you meant?”