Active Listening, Pay attention;  Give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge the message. Quality time is when you focus on each other, eliminate distractions and give undivided attention. Recognize that what is not said also speaks loudly. Pay attention to body language, demeanor, facial expression and tone of voice.

* Look at the speaker directly. Be intentional with eye contact, do not gaze away or look down.

* Do not think about yourself. Keep redirecting yourself away from what you are thinking of saying, and actively listen to the other person.

* Put aside distracting thoughts. You can think about other things later. Don’t mentally prepare a rebuttal! You are on the same team, no rebuttal needed. Trying to win devastates emotional intimacy.

* Avoid being distracted by environmental factors. Choose a good place to talk where you have control of the setting, so you can truly give each other your best.

* “Listen” to the speaker’s body language. Arms crossed or relaxed? Posture slumped down, or upright and comfortable. Foot tapping nervously?

* Refrain from side conversations when listening.

Active Listening, Show that you are listening;  Use your own body language and gestures to convey your attention. Once you increase how aware you are of yourself, you can be intentional at many different levels to active listening. Investing in quality relationships bears a lifetime of good results.

* Nod occasionally.

*Smile and use other facial expressions.

* Note your posture and make sure it is open and inviting.

* Encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments.

Active Listening does not come naturally to most of us, but we can all cultivate these skills. Do not ever settle for “good enough” you have one life to live, develop the richest and most satisfying relationships you can.

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