Dads and Moms, do you step away from your chores/TV/computer to PLAY WITH your children? Bonding with children is crucial to good relationships. Time invested is the best way to show your love. This should take place every day. Understand that the development of trust in children, takes place as they interact with Dad and Mom. Their capacity to trust strengthens as you play with them, listen to your children, and is proportional to the level of your involvement. Your child’s capacity for good future relationships is developed by their bond with you. Dad, again you have SUPERPOWER over both sons and daughters learning to trust. Healthy, appropriate physical touch by Dad teaches both genders that they are loved and respected. Good parenting points for Dad; //www.scienceofrelationships.com/home/2011/6/19/dads-influence-who-their-daughters-find-attractive.html
Healthy touch enhances attachment and bonding between parents and children. Research studies have found that both brain and social development are dependent upon babies and small children receiving safe, affectionate touch. Self-respect and respect for others is nurtured during these safe and loving interactions. The absence of safe physical affection, or the presence of hurtful or inappropriate physical behavior produces the opposite. The relationship templates your children develop with you when they are young follow them into adulthood. Are your Kids Attached To You?
Good parents promote attachment and bonding with their children, and between their children. We are created to be in relationship, quality connections bring us fulfillment in our life. As we spend quality one on one time with our children, they develop internal templates for how they will relate with others. Think of it like an operating system in a computer, the attachment style and bonding with the parents is a model for the life-long “operating system.” When you are listening to your child, face him and use eye contact to show you are actively listening.