ChildrenThere are many important principles to use in Good Parenting. In this article I am focusing on principles related to Attachment Styles. In the book Parenting Inside Out, Dr. Dan Siegel teaches us a great deal about becoming better parents, developing healthy attachment and teaching this to our children and teens. Do you know your attachment style? The Secure Attachment Style is our goal.

Read and discuss the following guidelines taken from this book. I think they will go a long way to your good parenting;

Comfort your child

Apologize if your behavior is inappropriate

Practice good self-care

Become attuned to your child so he/she attaches well is good parenting;


Encourage age-appropriate independence in your child

Show pride in each child’s accomplishments

Build your child’s self-esteem by believing in him/her

Respond to your child’s changing needs

Calm your children when upset, hurt, disappointed

Discipline with logical and natural consequences

Expect others to show respect to your child. Never threaten abandonment, “come now or I am leaving without you.”

Believe in your child’s gifts and abilities

Trust your children

Practice unconditional love-your words and actions

Provide both stated and unstated messages of “I value you”

Provide both stated and unstated messages of “You can think”

Provide both stated and unstated messages of “You have control”

Provide choices so that your child can develop competency making decisions

Consider each of these points to cultivate Good Parenting; When poor choices are made, it is a learning opportunity. Give the opportunity to your child to make a better choice sooner than later!  Develop insight about your own upbringing in order to become the best parent you can; //

Parenting is an honor and enormous responsibility, I want to encourage you to learn/grow/deepen your abilities and enjoy good parenting.

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